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Day 20
Share the Load

Sometimes, we carry too heavy of a load. Sometimes, we carry too heavy of a load alone.
And itâs not Biblical.
Now, I know. We donât need to be wimpy Christians. I know we need to rely on Christ for all we need. I know we need to be faith filled and encouraging and strong.
Yet, He told us to share the load, too. He told us to be the Body of Christ, each one having a part to play. He also told us when one mourns, we all mourn. When one rejoiced, we all rejoice.
So, donât carry your load alone.
Share it with someone. Ask for prayer. Ask for help. Ask for a hand to be lended. And let them lift your load.
Donât steal their blessing when they want to pay. Donât shut them out when they want to pray. Donât turn your back when they come to offer comfort and love.
Youâll be surprised as your load is lifted how much more of theirs youâre able to help carry.
Bear one anotherâs burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.
Galatians 6:2
For as the body is one and has many members, but all the members of that one body, being many, are one body, so also is ChristâŠBut now indeed there are many members, yet one body. And the eye cannot say to the hand, âI have no need of youâ; nor again the head to the feet, âI have no need of you.â No, much rather, those members of the body which seem to be weaker are necessaryâŠAnd if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; or if one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it.
1 Corinthians 12:12, 20-22, 26
Day 10
The Observer

Watch with your eyes not with your feelingsâŠ
Listen with your eyes not their wordsâŠ
Always observing truth beyond what is said and felt.
Honesty is told in a backhanded compliment.
Integrity is revealed in a condescended reply.
Kindness is exposed in a moment of crisis.
Leadership is defined in a flash of tragedy.
Never take their word for it.
Never receive their plight without question.
Always observe. Always listen. Always reason.
Truth is crying out to you.
Just uncover your eyes and ears to understand it.
As in water face reflects face,
So a manâs heart reveals the man.Proverbs 27:19
Does not wisdom cry out,
And understanding lift up her voice?
She takes her stand on the top of the high hill, beside the way, where the paths meet.
She cries out by the gates, at the entry of the city, at the entrance of the doors:
âTo you, O men, I call, and my voice is to the sons of men. O you simple ones, understand prudence, and you fools, be of an understanding heart. Listen, for I will speak of excellent things, and from the opening of my lips will come right things; For my mouth will speak truth; Wickedness is an abomination to my lips. All the words of my mouth are with righteousness; Nothing crooked or perverse is in them. They are all plain to him who understands, and right to those who find knowledgeâŠâProverbs 8:1-9

Thinking about convos Iâve had over the past several days and how Iâm thankful for the Body of Christ.
Hear me. You donât have to be in the same church to be the Body. You donât have to be in the same seasons of life. You donât have to run your households the same way. You donât even have to be in the same state.
You just have to walk in agreement, following the same God, and BE THE BODY.
Recently, I called a lady who had visited our church on Sunday simply because they had friends there, and they had âa day offâ from their congregation because of a building move situation. She was a pastorâs wife, too. She encouraged me as she spoke about the great things of our church, the great message my husband preached, and the refreshing they needed and felt while they worshipped with us. She thanked me, and we prayed for each other.
THIS is being the Body, my friends.
I had another conversation in which I just listened as my friend shared her struggles with a health issue. Cancer. All the fears, transitions, frustrations, and unwanted prognosis while attempting to hold onto faith in a faithful and loving God, knowing without a shadow of a doubt that Heâs still God.
Another conversation was filled with excitement and heartache as her son moves away to college, and while she misses him terribly, she knows heâs at the right place, in the right season, doing the right thing. This conversation was concluded by a hand on an arm, a strong look in the eyes, and one friend telling another, âIt will be an adjustment, but you enjoy this new season of time with your husband. Focus on putting your attention on him and his on youâŠEmpty nesting can be fun!â
Another in which the wife is watching a terrible disease daily rob her husbandâs quality of life, and thereâs nothing she can do about it but pray. This conversation didnât amount to words of solution or even of any words I felt could be of great comfort, except, âGod is with you, and please, tell us how to help (because we wonât impose, but weâre here).â
In all these, the Body was being the Body as it should be. Carrying one anotherâs burdens. Being there, not just in word and deed, but simply in presence and love. Sharing the raw, unedited feelings of the heart and not shielding it out of pride, isolation or fear.
If youâre not a believer, you may have no idea what Iâm talking about. And thatâs ok.
But if you are a believer in the One True GodâŠ
Letâs BE THE BODY, Church. â€ïž
âBear ye one anotherâs burdens. For in this, you the law of Christ.â
Galatians 6:2
What do you love about where you live?
I love where I live because itâs beautiful, quaint, and comfortable. Itâs also filled you all kinds of options. Iâve always been a âsmall town girl,â and while growing up, I always thought Iâd live in the same small town forever, raising my kids and living in a âlittle white house with a little white picket fence.â
Well, God kinda had different plans for me. Since moving from my home town, Iâve lived in 2 states, 5 towns, and 1 city. Iâve gone to 3 schools, lived in 12 houses, and have been actively involved in 6 churches. And 3 of those towns have been while raising our sons. But each have been small towns, at least in the scale of metropolitan areas.
And truthfully, Iâve loved every town Iâve lived in. Thatâs just being content in where you are and who youâre with, but thatâs another blog for another day.
So, you ask why I love where I live⊠itâs a small town that really has grown quite a bit since we moved here. However, we live on the outskirts of town, and we donât normally deal with the busier side. Our city officials have taken great care to beautify the downtown, moderate what comes in and out, and worked hard to keep that âsmall town feelâ to the area.
I love our church, the people, and the atmosphere of community and family. I love our neighborhood that is well kept, and the people are always friendly. I love that weâre located just minutes from the lake, a few more minutes from the mountains, and less than an hour from a major city. So, you can be anywhere you want within a short amount of time. And I love that we live in an area where people still long for togetherness and a sense of camaraderie among the (smaller) masses.
And I believe thatâs what builds love for where you live. When itâs all about you and yours and competition, stress, strife, and success, I believe you loose that sense of community and forsake care and compassion for cutthroat self ambition and ego.
You donât have to live in a small town to achieve this, but I think it helps. However, Iâve had friends who live living in a big city, and they have still accomplished this by creating a community of family, whether it be in their neighborhoods, churches, or workplace. Where it is doesnât matter as much as with whom it is. If you are gathered together with likeminded people, accomplishing a common goal for a greater purpose, that sense of family and belonging will naturally arise.
So, what about you? What do you love about where you live?
Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion. Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.
Romans 12:15-18

Having purpose is so important, and it is motivating. But when your purpose becomes an attitude of competition only to put down someone else, that pride will be your downfall. That downfall may not come to you immediately, but it will come. Eventually, it will come.
Purpose should be an inner competition of better self. Purpose should be an outward vigor of thriving through hardships. purpose should be an omnidirectional display of helping someone else to achieve their dream.
When purpose meets awareness of another, that purpose becomes a superpower that is not easily stopped. When purpose meets denial of self for the life of another, that purpose becomes almost invincible.
Choose purpose over pride. Self-denial over self-absorption. Compassion over competition.
And youâll be amazed at the world you can create.
Pride goes before destruction,
And a haughty spirit before a fall.
Better to be of a humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud. He who heeds the word wisely will find good, whoever trusts in the Lord, happy is he.Proverbs 16:18-20
What is a word you feel that too many people use?
Really is a word that is often overused by too many people. And sometimes, I can be that people. âReallyâ is an adverb that is used for convenience and often, also, as my English teacher grandmother used to tell me, itâs used out of laziness.
When you say, âThat elephant was really big!â, you could have used a more descriptive words and made the sentence more interesting: âThat elephant was ginormous!â
We are often too lazy in our descriptions and in our speaking, and if we would use better words, our stories and conversations could be much more enjoyable and intriguing!

Ever have someone in your life who pushes back on your new opinion?
Ever have someone who says, âDonât go that way,â and it just gets under your skin?
Ever have someone close to you give you a sharp rebuke with no apologies, no wavering, no rebuttals?
Ever have someone challenge you to be better, to go deeper, to go farther, than you ever thought you could?
If yes is your answerâŠ
Donât get mad, offended or hurt.
Donât resist, ignore or refuse.
Donât turn away, push away or reject.
If that person is above reproach and has been a faithful friend,
Embrace that person because he or she cares.
She cares enough to tell you where to get off at.
He cares enough to tell you the truth.
They care enough not to leave you on the wrong path or fill you with poisonous flattery.
True love will always be truthful.
For true love cares more about the soul.
Open rebuke is better
Than love carefully concealed.Faithful are the wounds of a friend,
But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.Provers 27:5-6
How do you know when itâs time to unplug? What do you do to make it happen?
I suppose I work to not have to unplug, as I set up disciplines ahead of time to keep that from happening. Now, Iâm certainly not perfect, and there have been many times that Iâve had to purposefully unplug from electronics because it all just got too much. But those particular times taught me so much and have helped me to develop routines that shield me better from having to âmake myself unplug.â
The disciplines that help me to live a life of unplugging would be not letting that so Iâll media, texting or internet browsing be the first thing I grab ahold of in the mornings or the last thing I am consumed with before I sleep. Iâd like to say that about the phone itself, but the only reason I do have it in hand at these times is Iâm opening up my Bible app to read Scriptures to begin and end my day with the right frame of mind.
No matter if you consider yourself âa religious personâ or not, reading Scripture can bring encouragement, strength, clarity and peace. Making a habit of reading Scripture brings these things into your heart and mind on a consistent basis, and as you repeat this over and over, it becomes part of your lifestyle. A lifestyle of reading Scriptures can surely change you from the inside out.
Now, let me give just a bit of clarity here. Some read scriptures, and you never really see a change in the way they talk or the way they live. And this would be because they never apply what they read to their lives. Thatâs no different than if youâre learning the English language by reading a textbook, and you never take what youâre reading and apply it to your language. This is what I call having head knowledge but no heart knowledge.
However, if youâll read those scriptures and apply them, youâll be amazed at what a transformed human you can become! When you let those Scriptures permeate the depths of your heart, and you begin to live out what youâre reading, youâll not only be the one impacted, but those around you will also begin seeing a difference, and youâll have the opportunity to help them change as well.
Another key discipline for my life of being unplugged is âbeing present where you are.â Too many people live their lives missing what is right there in front of them because they are constantly looking toward their tomorrows or always dwelling on their past. Youâll miss the beautiful people and endless possibilities if you donât live presently where you are. I love the quote, âWherever you are, be all there.â – Jim Elliott. I donât know anything about that man, but he his statement hold so much truth.
And this doesnât mean you never assess your past or plan for your future. These things are important and a must if you are to go forward in life. But if youâre not present in today, you can very well miss the healing of a past wouldnât, neglect to see a promise for tomorrow, and become blind to the beautiful miracles of relationships traveling along either you.
I have several key disciplines, but Iâll only choose three today to save boredom of a too lengthy post⊠so, the last discipline world be to be intentional in whatever Iâm doing or wherever Iâm going or with whomever Iâm with. I can defiantly attest that Iâve not mastered this nor even achieved it well from time to time. However, I am intentionally engaging everyday to get better at it. When Iâm with someone, I try to be intentional with what I say, how I act, why I respond a certain way. When Iâm carrying out a task I work hard to be intentional in its completion not just to finish it but to complete it with a spirit of excellence. And when Iâm out in nature, taking a drive, or simply walking down the hall to another coworkersâ office, I attempt to be more intentional than I was âthe last time.â
I donât want to look at a waterfall the same way I have every time and risk the chance of growing bored with my awesome Creatorâs creation. I donât want to drive along some of the same backroads and grow apathetic to the beauty that surrounds me simply because âIâve been there before.â And I never ever want to take for granted someone who has been in my life for a day or a decade because after all, weâre none guaranteed the next breath, and everyone has value, and I want me last effect to be an admirable, memorable one.
And when Iâve failed at these disciplines, and Iâve blogged too long, typed too long on social media with old and new friends, or simply scrolled the internet too long with mind numbing scrolling powers, I shake my head, repent of my apathy, and out that electronic device. I step outside into the bright sunshine and go find a more productive way to spend my hours.
I encourage anyone who might be reading this to do the same. Set the electronics aside, step outside and breathe the fresh air. Do what my husband and I call, âgetting off the pavementâ: go somewhere where thereâs trees, waterfalls, dessert valleys, rolling hills, the ocean tide, or majestic mountains. Move beyond your day to day routines and experience something more. Grab that hand of someone you love and look deep into their eyes and remember why you fell in love the first time. Wrap your arms around your child, grandchild or even a parent or grandparent, and remind them of your love and your desire to be present in their todays and their tomorrows.
Youâll be so thankful that you did!
But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Matthew 6:33-34

Boundaries. What are boundaries?
An ancient boundary would be a place set up by forefathers to make territory, valued land, and a home.
Oxford says itâs a line that marks the limit of an area.
Webster describes it as something that indicates or fixes a limit or extent.
A definition I like is a dividing line.
Because truthfully, thatâs exactly what a boundary in a relationship is. Itâs the start and stop of what Iâm willing to tolerate to allow you close proximity me.
And we all have them. We all set them. Intentionally and non-intentionally.
We set them for random dogs that run up to us on the street. We set them for rulers and dictators who want to control. We set them for arbitrary strangers in public. We set them for our boss, our coworkers, our friends.
And yet, when it comes to loved ones or family, sometimes, we question if boundaries are appropriate. Are they needed? And are they valid?
Instead of answering this forthrightly, let me answer with a question.
If you so easily set that boundary for the arbitrary stranger that you may never see again, why would that person get more attention for your thoughts than the ones with whom you are closest?
Let that settle in and mull it over for a minute.
If you set a boundary for that stranger, as in they canât just simply steal from you without a fight, why would you allow a loved one to continually steal your peace of mind day after day?
If you set a boundary for that ruler or boss in your life, as in he or she isnât going to come into your home and rearrange your life without resistance, why would you allow a child to walk in and wreak havoc in your abode?
If you set a boundary for that random dog you encounter, as in it will not jump on you, eat whats in your hand or dispose of itself on you without a kick, shove, yell or simple walk away, why would you allow a family member everyday to do the very same things, even if it is a mental or emotional act of abuse?
When someone is unruly, disrespectful, overbearing, self centered, or selfish in their regard to someone else, sometimes, youâre going to have to decide how much you will tolerate and then, set a boundary for no more.
It doesnât matter if they donât like it.
It doesnât matter if they agree.
It doesnât even matter if their feelings are hurt, and they say so.
What matters is the peace of mind that comes when the line is drawn and sanity is found.
What matters is the love that returns when the fence is erected and a calm is found within its limits.
Set those boundaries. Stand your ground.
And begin to breathe again.
Do not remove the ancient landmark
Proverbs 22:28
Which your fathers have set.
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