Who’s Your Top 5?

/ The WheatandTares

I saw this post last night on social media, and it got me to thinking…

It is so true. We become very much like those with whom we associate. This led me to my next question: With whom do you spend the majority of  your time?

The people with whom you surround yourself will determine the kind of person you become. It doesn’t matter how strong you think you are, how influential or how dedicated you are to “being you.” The longer you are with someone, the more your personalities can merge.

So, have you thought about it? Are the people you are around the most a good influence on you? Do they bring you down or lift you up? Do you leave their presence feeling better about yourself and the world around you, or do you leave feeling worse?

If you take the top five people with whom you spend time and average it out, what is the result? Who are you becoming??

*I’d love to hear your response. Please share with me your thoughts. 😊

**Note: I did not take this photo, nor do I own rights to it. Simply copied from social media.

6 thoughts on “Who’s Your Top 5?”

  2. Sadako and I married roughly four and a half years ago we dated a year before we got married. So for the past five years, Sadako, my wife, has literally dominated my life. She has provided me with an ocean of love and support. I mean that.

    Before I met Sadako I was enmeshed in a relationship with a woman who could find not much good to say to me. Nothing I did was right. Nothing I said was good. Whenever I left her presence, I felt bitter, frustrated, and angry. Until I left her for good–what a wonderful feeling.

    So with my positive wife, I’m becoming a much more positive person. I’m happier. My writing is better. My life is better.

    Thank you for such a great post. Very interesting idea.

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  4. When I was younger I would cringe every time my grandmother pointed out bad habits of my close friends, telling me that people would associate me with those bad habits. Sort of like being guilty by association. I partially agree with this statement. I don’t think hanging out with a smoker will make me a smoker. If I’m strong in my position then problem averted, we respect our differences. I think the more worrisome issue is the effect that our friends have on our soul, our mind, our heart. The words they fill is with – or empty us with – in our most trying moments.

    When I think of friends I remember hanging out with a friend who was always speaking negatively about her relationship. I would become irritable with my fiancé because of the conversations my girlfriend and I had. He was paying a price that wasn’t his to pay. I was bringing baggage into my relationship because of the negativity I was filling myself with elsewhere. I had a low tolerance for certain things because of how passionately we spoke about men’s wrongdoings. Of course I can counsel my girlfriends and be there for them in their difficult times, but that experience showed me to be cautious about what I’m filling my soul tank with. We aren’t always aware of the effects something as simple as a conversation may have in our home life.

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